Julie – Favourites – Gerbra’s

I chose my Gerbra colours carefully on Sunday.

Red and Yellow were Matt’s and my favourite colours.

One of the yellow was the very close to the colour of our HQ.

One reminds me of Matt and Anne as yellow is one of their favourite colours and Matthew’s is orange recently. This gerbra made me think of the both immediately and Smile. Love you both xo

Gerbra’s are special to me as my granddad had a very green thumb and Gerbra’s were one of his speciality’s with double and triples.

My mummy Lorraine always had Gerbra’s in our garden when I was growing up, although ours from memory were mostly single.

Dutch Hybrid Gerbra's
Dutch Hybrid Gerbra’s

Julie – Favourites – Dragons’ Elf

I couldn’t resist this garden ornament/statue.

It was a joint Valentine present a few years back for my fairy garden.

The elf/pixie and baby dragon represented me and my interests and the dragon Matts.

It is the perfect us item for my garden bubble.

We still haven’t named them, the name are needed any suggestions…?

Dragons Elf
Dragons Elf
Dragons Elf 1
Dragons Elf 1

Julie – Favourites – Fairy Mug

Another precious item that makes me smile.

A gift from Caity for Mothers Day a few years ago.

From our wonderful outing together at the Mind Body and Soul (MBS) Expo.

Fairy Mug MBS
Fairy Mug MBS

Julie – Favourites – Snake Plant Pot

Found this treasure yesterday at an op shop.

Loved the shape of it perfect for another indoor plant.

Transplanted my snake plant / mother in laws tongue.

New Planter Pot - Snake Plant
New Planter Pot – Snake Plant

 

Julie – Favourites – Shades of Pink

I love these shades of pink…

They makes me smile.

 My favourite dressing gown.

Shades of Pink - My Dressing Gown
Shades of Pink – My Dressing Gown
Shades of Pink - My Dressing Gown 1
Shades of Pink – My Dressing Gown 1

Julie – Favourites – Fairy Tea Cup

Can’t wait to put my tea pot in my fairy garden from the kids.

I have the perfect spot, pride and place on top.

Looking forward to getting my fairy garden finished.

Mother’s Day Present 2017.

Favourites - Fairy Tea Cup
Favourites – Fairy Tea Cup

Julie – Favourites – 9 Cats Mug

One of my favourite cups I got for Christmas 2016. It brings me joy and makes me smile.

There are 9 cats that represent the 9 in our family; Matthew and I and four kids and 3 partners.

Oh and I love cats lol

Favourites - 9 cats mug
Favourites – 9 cats mug

2015 Dating your spouse…. Update

So we are 8 months into dating. 4 months in Matthew re proposed. We have pretended to in together which could be said happened when I returned from a week in Newcastle LOL. Which brings us to 2015. So far 2015 has bought on lots of changes and busy lifestyle. We  have found ourselves caught up in life and drifting back to some old habits we aren’t perfect lol. We started to go to Rockabilly lessons which is something we enjoyed but finding the time is not all that easy some weeks. We have had a chat recently about managing our stress as this was one of the things we felt was a contributing factor to why we were creeping back and being slack. Working out how to manage our stress before we became short fused was a wise choice in hind sight. We also have individually taken time whether it was deliberate or not to remember how things were in the beginning of our relationship to try to work on ensuring we stay on track and to re ignite some of those old feeling we know are still there but get masked from lifestyle and stress.  What we have found so far is they weren’t too far from the surface which was a pleasant surprise.  As I have said before we don’t have all the answers but even if one thing we have done can help the ones we love and care about I am happy to share. Naturally there are things we won’t be putting in this post but happy to talk about if asked :-).  Looking forward to whats in store for us this year cause its nearly Easter.

Well Easter in over and a trip away for two days was just what we needed to re focus and de stress a little. One thing is clear the more effort you both put it the more rewarding and closer your connection is. So it’s always a work in progress LOL. Naturally this also depends where your relationship is at as to how much work it would require to get to this point. very happy with our progress although slowed and at times feels like set backs its finding a balance with life and love too much of either and the other suffers.

Love life balance and communication I think are the keys to keeping a good relationship going. If only we could work out a how to get the perfect work life balance that is a whole nother subject but one we are also working on. Maybe I should write about that next.

 

2014 Caribou Reunion!

Anniversary of 50 years was a great weekend away in Newcastle. Friday was meet and greet BBQ. Saturday was a dinner and Sunday was farewell Breakfast.  Had a great time travelled there with Tammy. Meet up with a few ex 38 members Strikey and Karen, Pete, BO, and met new 38 Squadron  members Luke, Ben and Chris and many oldies from the beginnings of 35 and 38 Squadrons.

Matt, Tammy and Julie
Matt, Tammy and Julie

2014 Dating, Double Life, and Role Playing – Double thumbs up if its with your partner!!

I have decided to write a post about our little trial as it is helping us tremendously and if anything I share reaches a cord with you and can help where your at them I’m happy to pay it forward.

So a little bit of back ground leading up to the dating without going into too much detail.   We have been married a long time (19yrs), not happy with where we are at, need to get some direction in life and our relationship.  Feel we are in a rut, too familiar, complacent and take each other for granted, which is very common in relationships, but what you do about it is not so common as we are all different. We are very happy with our kids and their education, our choice to move here for the serenity and buying 5 acres as a trial for rural lifestyle. So to sum up in essence we have achieved our goals here and need to get ready for the next phase of our lives. But due to how we were feeling such as being in a rut, bogged down financially and emotionally from bills, tired, cranky and over it. This prompted a discussion that lead to us not being happy in generally with where we were at. We knew we still loved each other and still wanted to be together but we also knew something had to change to get the ball rolling to improve our communication.  Communication has always been one of our strong points however with health issues and stress this has faulted some what over the last 2 years.

A discussion about feeling unhappy unfolded one night and I asked what we had in common? What will we do when we don’t have kids to look after and its just us? We didn’t know… which led me to suggested why don’t we start dating to get to know each other again, cause life had us so busy we starting forgetting the small stuff that held the big stuff together.  We discussed how we could go about doing this and decided we would have to pretend we have just met or at least try to, this way we could separate ourselves from our stresses and respond as a friend and not so familiar.  Which when you think about it you don’t speak to your friends the same way you speak with the one you love. We started with a candle lit dinner at home and sat away from the kids.  They were very supportive and liked the idea, which took me by surprise as I thought they would think we were silly.  So it became quite exciting. My date offered to help me with a few odd jobs around the house as like most people we will happily help others but we put our own stuff on hold. So this was great, in doing this we started to think about how we talk to each other and having to think before speaking so we were responding as a friend to a friend shed a whole new light on our communication and with this little effort how different we were starting to feel and how we responded naturally this was made easier as we were trying to pretend we weren’t married.  It was a little nerve racking and awkward at dinner, not knowing what to talk about.  It did get easier, we had to correct each other a few times where we answered to familiarly and had to change our response by the end of the night that was referred to as in a past life together, which became quite funny by the end.

July 2014

Our First Date Candle lit dinner with Matthew (my builder boyfriend) and wine in front of the fire…. first “date” in 19 years. Our kids liked each other so much they are almost the same person LMAO. Love my kids they surprise me with their thoughtfulness and humor when I least expect it. Would love to see more of it “Just saying” lol. Huge thank you to Caitlin for being our waitress last night you are gorgeous xo 

Had a second dinner date with Matthew tonight late night coffee due to umpire training but none the less our second date.

We have seen each other every day whether it be for coffee or dinner, as a date trying to keep our two lives separate for now.  It is very tricky and we are fumbling through it, but with a bit of effort and encouragement it is also alot of fun and very exciting to get to know each other again.

Aug 2014

Matthew wrote – Well, last night was my fourth date with a beautiful woman that I am getting to know better, Julie. I surprised her and took her to coffee and to watch Mrs Browns Boys D’ Movie at Indooroopilly. I had a great night chatting and seeing the movie, which was fine, but the company and conversation was better than the movie.

Quiet casual dinners planned this week with the kids getting to know my new boyfriend Matthew. xo

We have officially decided to take the next step and move from dating to girlfriend and boyfriend but taking things very slowly.  It is helping us work through topics that used to angst us and it is slowly slowly and gently discussing them but so far we have made a lot of progress and I would highly recommend anyone to give it a go if their relationship is a little stale or having trouble talking about stuff.

All of our friends have been hugely supportive and have praised us for doing this.  Which is also a relief as there are always boo hoo er’s.  I didn’t get married to live with a stranger so a relationship is always a work in progress no matter how good it is.  One of our friends pointed out it is basically role playing and in a sense it is I guess we just hadn’t thought of it that way.  If it is going to re light the embers and keep things interesting and fun for another 20 years its well worth hopping on the circus train and giving it a go.  The key is that both parties are prepared to give it a genuine go.

We are totally enjoying this journey!

Sept 2014

Having and owl moment – So excited that we are making positive improvements in our life and our relationship… and of course our family. Life is many things good and bad but it is a journey that creates so many memories but most of all it is an adventure that you are supposed to adapt to the changes that’s how we grow. We have started a new chapter in our life which will get a little crazy in the coming months (with my boyfriend and his kids moving in LOL) but can not wait so impatient!! 

Now to get organised for my hot date with my boyfriend. Out to umpire dinner.

Things are moving along great have had to make time to be dating which is a challenge some weeks when life takes over but so worth the effort. We went away for our anniversary (19th) only the second time we have left the kids on their own for the weekend.

Oct 2014

Went away to Caloundra for our Anniversary. Great food for lunch. Then a proposal was made. She said YES! 

We are starting a new life (stage) together and can’t wait. So happy with our life right now. Love you forever and 5 days Matthew xo.

Matthew re proposed to re new our vows in some description next year for our 20th Wedding Anniversary and as a commitment to spending another 20+ years together. Four months ago Matthew and I committed to a transformation of our relationship and our health. We were in a what some would term a “RUT”. Sick of our lifestyle, feeling like we were just going through the motions in life, stressed out and tired, doing the best we could. As allot of you can probably relate to when your stressed you often take it out on the ones you love and the niceties that we use with our friends or strangers we get complacent with and don’t take the time to use with our loved ones. We were no different and this just added to the situation. With Lockie turning 18 this year really highlighted that to us that in a few years it was going to be just us our kids are getting older and would start their own lives. We didn’t want to get to that stage in our life and discover we were living with a stranger. We have changed over the last 19 years so the decision to start dating to get to know each other again although was a little silly at times and awkward to start with taught us so much about each other and helped us find a way forward (especially from a communication level) in all aspects of our life. The cleanse was amazing and complimented this transition in every aspect. Feeling fitter, more energetic and getting that zest for life back truly provided a great foundation for us as well. Without both of us making the effort “and I don’t say that lightly” it was difficult at times to keep up the act in dating and pretending we were getting to know each other for the first time and finding a balance with our real married life and our new relationship (which at times meant putting dating on hold to deal with life and then trying to get our momentum back), coupled with that a nutritional cleanse like nothing we had ever tried before. We had always hoped to renew our vows for our 20th Anniversary it is a milestone that deserves noting, but 4 months ago our hearts were not in it and we would have simply been going through the motions and its meaning would have been lost. We both wanted it to mean something, the knowing that we still want to grow old with our best friend and that our love for each other is stronger than ever. I feel truly blessed and so grateful to have my best friend back (whom I lost for a quite a few years). We are ready to celebrate for the right reasons and sign up for at least another 20.

Nov 2014

Since getting to know my Fiancee (again lol) from July what a whirlwind of ups, downs and busy, busy, busy. If this is any indication of 2015 Bring it! Loving getting out more and spending time together Matthew! Can’t wait to celebrate next October. Here’s to new beginnings ! 

We can’t afford to do allot most weeks and some of you may be wondering how we can afford all the dates lol Well let me share our secret. I bought scoupon and groupon vouchers for us to use leading up to Christmas so when we have a bad fortnight we can still have a nice date out and it only costs petrol and maybe drinks. They have some awesome deals so check them out.

Funny how things happen – When we went to Caloundra and Matthew proposed, on our way home we went to Brisbane for an appointment and decided to use another of our voucher for a grazing platter at Moo Moo’s Restaurant which was lovely. But before going I needed the toilet and went to the first pub be could find I quickly discover that by chance we ended up at The Victory which is where we first met 20 years earlier. Went for our appointment only to discover that they were closed due to unexpected surgery so on the way back to the car we decided to have one drink at the Vic for old time sake which was great reminiscing. Well that and with getting re engaged was a highlight for this year for me but it doesn’t stop there lol. Our recent dinner date at the Indian Restaurant at Booval when leaving was still early and whilst in the car park Matt suggest we go for a drink and I said sure. Pull up at the lights to work out whether we were heading right or left and looked up again by chance to see the Bowls Club (Swifts) which happens to be where we had our wedding reception lol so we went straight through and dropped in.

Bring on 2015!

Natural Remedies – Garlic

I have discovered a few natural remedies over the years and wanted to share them.

GARLIC

Is fabulous as a natural anitbiotic…. and keeps the vampires away LOL

I had a really sore throat a few years back and a friend of mine Claire Told me to try it as I could hardly swallow and felt like I had flem caught in my throat… Which I discovered after trying to cough it up was my tonsils. One side was really bad and the other side had started to get inflamed.  So I gave it a go.

No you do not eat it!  If you can swallow a tablet you can use garlic.  Fresh Natural Garlic works better than tablets.

So what you do in chop it fairly small so it digests faster.  Put is UNDER your tongue (this way you dont taste it) and take a big swig of drink and swallow it down and continue until all gone.

Works well taken with Orange Juice or Coffee and eat something straight after as it can make you a little sick in the tummy.  This will also lessen not eliminate the garlic breath or repeating.  This also works for Ear infections.  ETC…

My kids have not had to have anitbiotics now for over six years….

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